Making a Wedding in Yerushalayim? Part 2

The author of Dvar B'Ito, Rabbi Mordechai Genuth writes in today's diary "Happy is the one who does away with the speaker at the wedding, so everyone can speak to his fellow man, to wish him well" He describes a technique to be instituted at weddings in Israel that will enhance Ahavas Yisrael, respect for ones fellow Jew, improved communication and interaction. His recipe for success in these areas lies in lowering the volume of music played at weddings, turning off the speakers so that one just hears the musical instruments. In this way there will be a soft, musical background that permits those attending the wedding to communicate without having to shout. It allows those coming to increase joy for the Chatan and Kallah to enjoy themselves without having their ear drums affected or even deafened by music that ceases to be music due to the high volume from the speakers.

This advice is in keeping with the ban of bands at weddings in Jerusalem, reinforcing care for ones fellow Jew and how this care, love and respect fosters good relationships and blessing. 

As the Rabbi Genuth points out, in todays time everyone is searching for all kinds of segulos to prevent distress and harm. Instead of searching for all these Segulos, why not become a segula to G-d by not distressing everyone with blaring music that destroys hearing, try using this to increase sensitivity to your fellow Jew and certainly after 11.30 pm

Lastly he recommends to anyone who goes to Yerushalayim to go to a wedding, that they should take advantage of the opportunity to visit the Western Wall and in this way you increase the Mitzvah of attending a Simchah in Yerushalayim by also remembering the Kotel and obviously the as yet, unbuild Temple for which we mourn daily. 

Dvar B'Ito can be obtained through our website or by contacting Rabbi Eliyahu Shear

Hachnasat Kallah - Helping Brides In Need

Last week we interviewed a young couple for our Bayit Chadash Project  

We have a questionnaire / interview that we follow and the project does have Letters of Approbation.

This particular couple came to us a few weeks after their wedding. Thank G-d they have both married young and are now beginning their Shanah Rishona together. Yet, instead of the radiance and happiness one would expect on newly weds faces, we noticed the lines and expressions of stress. Why?

In order to keep up with societies dictates, they ran up bills amounting to close to NIS 40 000.

We were able to give a gift of something to off set this debt and certain items towards the new house, thanks to donations (both monetary and items) sent in to our project. However, we became aware of a deeper need.

This couple both came from families unable to provide a wedding. Understandably, they wanted their day to be special, and hence ran up bills, bills and more bills.

Over a series of posts, we will, bli neder (without a vow) be offering advise to Olim that is necessary for making a wedding in Yerushalayim. Information related to Kashrut, music and more. We will also offer tips on how to keep your wedding special and reduce on costs.

Anyone wishing to make a donation towards our Bayit Chadash - Wedding Project, please make a donation here, or via the website (follow the link on the words Bayit Chadash)

If you have a service and are able to either provide gift vouchers with a reduction to needy Kallot or other reductions or gifts, please be in touch too. 

Thank you for your kindness. As Rabbi Fishel Jacobs wrote at the bottom of his letter of approbation, "There is great merit to sponsor Bayit Chadash (New Home). The merit of such contributions is unfathobable. I vigorously urge the public to support this effort.

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